When the drinking became a problem, when it started affecting our marriage, our family life, there were many lies, empty promises, from my husband in how to fix the addiction situation. He did not refer to it as that or even that there was a problem. That is his attitude, who he is–if there is a problem, he has a solution and is there to fix it. My personality is I go right to the worst case scenario and I tend to get really stuck in the —This sucks attitude. He has always been a very positive, no worries, problem solver. I think that throughout the days of finding solutions and fixing the problem of addiction was how he thought he was controlling it. He was telling himself these lies and empty promises too, all the while meaning well. Justin is a very smart guy and can talk his way through anything. He is the guy everyone likes and is fun to have around. That is one of the reasons why he is so successful in his professional career. He is always very passionate about whatever he does and is so good at keeping information in his head and able to recall what he needs at any time in any situation. I remember our car trips up North to visit our parents and him on the phone with clients and rattling off information while driving. He is always ready with an answer, a reason, or a solution. This carried over into his personal life and his relationship with me. A lot of the times, he meant well, he didn’t want me to worry, solved ALL the problems, offered solutions, but many of them were excuses or empty promises. How many times did I hear, “I’m sorry” tacked on to a promise or solution of what would happen in the future. Until it became one he couldn’t control, or couldn’t fix. Alcohol had taken control and even though he desperately wanted to fix it, he was powerless. I am so thankful everyday that he admitted he couldn’t fix it, and went to treatment.